recognize that God consecrates marriage. Marriage is the expression
of God’s will and purpose functioning in two lives,
joined with joy, reverence, faith and an expectation of lifelong
partnership. Couples serve as important examples for our children
and young adults as they learn about adult relationships.
Quaker marriage vows invoke divine assistance. Friends believe
that when we know God’s love in our lives, when we are open
receiving direction, we find the divine assistance that our relationships
need. This requires openness and a maturity of spirit as we
seek to love the other person as he or she actually is.When Friends
marry, they are encouraged to do so under the care of the Meeting,
in a spirit of commitment for lifelong care of the relationship.
Friends act as witnesses to what the Spirit has brought together.
marriages need a foundation of commitment, communication, honesty,
and integrity. Patience, humor, and a spirit of
adventure, guided by a mutual trust in God’s presence, strengthen
the present and brighten the hope for the future.
pass through many phases, and through all phases the quality of marriage
is tested. Respect for each other and the
expression of enduring love deepen the bond.With God’s help,
couple finds a true path and a way of living that leads to a strong
union. The Meeting can provide guidance and support to marriages
through clearness committees, retreats, workshops, and referral
when needed. Most important, the Meeting and individuals help
couples through prayer and a strong belief in divine assistance
in daily life.